December 14, 2017

Gifts To The World

4th grade and Pre-K students working together
to build a block structure in our preschool
Each December our preschool and elementary classes end the calendar year with a long-standing Friends School tradition: a beading ceremony that includes teachers recognizing each student for his or her “gifts to the world”.

Parents who are new to Friends often ask what this is about and why we do it. 

Our school is a place where everyone is nurtured and respected for his or her individuality and contributions to the good of the whole. We hold in high esteem rituals and traditions that help children develop self-awareness and understanding of themselves as part of the bigger world.

In reflection of this philosophy, each class hosts a short ceremony where every child is celebrated for her or his own unique gifts.  Teachers read a short message from a card that highlights how each of their students show up in the world and the good they bring to the wider community.

In addition, each child is presented with a bead that is lovingly made by members of our community.  Students receive two beads a year so by the end of 5th grade, if the child started at Friends in our preschool, they have a necklace of 16 beads. Each bead tells a story of who the child has been through several developmental stages.

Our Gifts To The World ceremony is a connected and moving time that parents strive to attend.  In a recent faculty meeting, I asked our elementary teachers why they believe it is essential to continue these traditions that were started so many years ago. Each of the teachers spoke of the importance of honoring each child, of walking the walk that our students are known and loved, and of recognizing the diversity and uniqueness of everyone.

It is a wonderful way, along with our Winter Celebrations, of wrapping up the year.

There will be no Happenings or Among Friends blog next Friday, the first day of winter break.  Whether you stay home, or wander afar this winter, I wish for you and your family a safe, restful and peaceful couple of weeks.  May your very own gifts to the world shine bright! 

December 7, 2017

Lessons from Denmark

Emma and I at Tivoli Gardens in Copenhagen over Thanksgiving
Over the Thanksgiving break, I was fortunate to be in Denmark to visit my daughter Emma.  A college junior, Emma is studying in Copenhagen for the semester.

Coincidentally, Director of Middle School Shelby Pawlina’s daughter Emery is also studying in Copenhagen this term and it was fun to run into her on the street during my visit!

Emma is an education major at Denison University in Ohio and she is studying education overseas.  Not only is she learning about the Danish way of educating children, she has traveled to Helsinki, Finland as well as Norway and Sweden in order to gain a bigger picture of education across Scandinavia.

As her father, and someone who has been passionate about learning and education since before she was born, I am quite envious.  I want to know more!

I am grateful for the few days I had seeing the sites of the Danish capital with my daughter as tour guide, but I would love to have the hands-on opportunity to learn about Scandinavian schools for a few months.

There have been a number of articles in the American press in recent years extolling the virtues of education in Finland, Denmark and other countries.  Their kids consistently rank at the top of the international test scores and their people are always at the top of the happiness charts.

In American Kindergartens, in recent years, particularly in public education, there have been huge shifts towards a heightened focus on academics, especially literacy.  Most American schools are teaching hard skills earlier and in a more structured way than ever before, and often before children are developmentally ready. And while time spent on literacy in American Kindergarten classrooms has gone up, time spent on arts, music, and child-selected activities (like choice time) has significantly dropped.

In Finland, kids start school at age 6 and Finland’s Kindergartners spend a sizable chunk of each day playing.

When children play, they are developing their language, math, and social-interaction skills. Play benefits cognitive, social, emotional, and physical development.  When play is fun and child-directed, children are motivated to engage in opportunities to learn.

Emma with the boys of her homestay family in NivÄ, Denmark
In Denmark, the intentional teaching of empathy is considered as important as teaching math and literacy, and it is woven into the school’s curriculum from pre-school through high school.

The Danes’ highly developed sense of empathy is one of the main reasons that Denmark is consistently voted one of the happiest countries in the world (this year it is once again number one). Empathy plays a key role in improving our social connections, which is a major factor in our overall happiness.

Teaching empathy has not only been proven to make kids more emotionally and socially competent and greatly reduce bullying, it can also help them be more successful and high-functioning adults in the future.

In all Scandinavian countries, the concept of joy is woven into the school day. Early-childhood education programs place a heavy emphasis on joy, which along with play is explicitly written into curriculum as a learning concept.  There is an old Finnish saying: “Those things you learn without joy you will forget easily.”

Choice. Empathy. Play. Joy.

The Scandinavians have figured out the recipe for success. At Friends, we focus on these concepts every day too.